starting over in your 30s and 40s. It is okay to begin again and again and AGAIN. empathizing with the many women and men dealing with fertility issues. Learn to read the room and not hurt people with prying questions and unsolicited comments. denouncing and destroying the societal burden on women to make marriages work … Continue reading Let’s normalize…
There are many reasons why I chose to begin exercising. Aside the pleasing aesthetics of sculpted muscles (to some) and the evident health benefits of a fit lifestyle, in 2018 when I first started, it was mostly important for me to see what my once underweight, skinny and frail body was capable of. I was … Continue reading Strength
"When things fall apart, the broken pieces allow all sorts of things to enter, and one of them is the presence of God" - Shauna Niequist It's been a long two weeks filled with stress, breakdowns and a bit of near hopelessness. I am continually grateful for the never-failing word of God and the love … Continue reading Rest in the Lord
I just finished watching the Netflix documentary titled 'Skin' by Beverly Naya, a fellow female Nigerian. Aside from the nostalgia I now sorely feel viewing parts of my home country on screen, this documentary is a harsh reminder of the colourism that exists in Nigeria (I can't speak for every African country). Luckily, I never … Continue reading Beautiful, black skin
Daily, we are bombarded with lots of imagery via social media platforms. This new-age of sharing is so different from what I, personally, am used to. More than ever before, you are somewhat granted access to people you'd not ordinarily meet. With such access comes a lot of advantages and also a lot of disadvantages. More … Continue reading Weigh your words
My mom claims she knew I'd be born with a lot of hair because throughout her 2nd and 3rd trimester, her belly button and the area around it hurt. A few hours after my birth, my father ran off to market to get an Afro comb for new born me. Hair I do have. Lots … Continue reading Hair!
I can't remember the first book I read but I remember how it felt...oh what a thrill it was! Thankfully, I have parents that invested in my childhood interests. They bought me many books, made available pen and paper and at the age of 12, bought me a manual typewriter to encourage my love of … Continue reading Living severally
The awesome thing about having a wealth of dating experiences is the possibility of (hopefully) noticing flaws that stick out like a sore thumb. From my experience and the experiences of some of the women that have been around me, there is a tendency for us to give our all in relationships - so much … Continue reading Have yours!
I had made plans two weeks ago to visit the VanDusen Botanical gardens with another individual but last minute, my would-have-been companion couldn't make it. I had two choices: stay home or go out alone. I chose the latter and I am glad I did. Armed with my face mask and big bottle of sanitizer … Continue reading Date afternoon with myself
As a child, I had zero fear of my father. What I had for him was true love. As an adult, that love matured into admiration and an unwavering respect for the great man that he is. Growing up, my dad was, and still is, the perfect gentleman. He is kind, soft spoken, slow to … Continue reading Daddy – A blessing