A lot of woes can be lain at the feet of 2020 and rightfully so. However, as tragic as the year has been in many ways, 2020 taught (hopefully) each of us life changing lessons. Lessons of gratitude, of contentment, of vision, and of faith. 2020 made crystal clear the importance of family and friends … Continue reading 2020: Not so bad
Author: girlslikefifi
Happy International Day of the Girl Child!
With the ongoing protests in Nigeria and my preoccupation with remaining informed of all the happenings, somehow I missed the celebration of the International Day of the Girl Child. "This international observance day of October 11 was declared by the United Nations to support more opportunity for girls and increase awareness of gender inequality faced … Continue reading Happy International Day of the Girl Child!
Musings on a rainy Vancouver day
It's cold but not too cold. It's wet outside and very much so. The rain continually pours and the clouds get darker and I remain seated, alone on my sofa, reminiscing on the summer days: pre-COVID, pre-marriage and pre-real life adult struggles. Summer days when I could travel and excitedly relish counting the stamps in … Continue reading Musings on a rainy Vancouver day
Just another day in Vancouver
24. That's the number of years I have been dependent on prescription glasses and contacts. With a rigorous fit life and the use of face masks in public spaces, glasses have become more restrictive. For the longest time, I have considered elective eye correction and I proceeded to book a free consultation with one of … Continue reading Just another day in Vancouver
Always so close
It was the year 2003. The 14 year old me waited impatiently to hear the closing bell and head to Mr. Biggs, a then-famous-Nigerian restaurant, with my friend to buy what had become our favourite pastry. At the sound of the bell, we began the 12 minutes trek from our school to Mr. Biggs. As … Continue reading Always so close
One superficial advantage of my African Hubs
In my single, dating years, I was always busy in the bathroom during spring and summer. Busy shaving! ...because, you see, I am super hairy and the culture around hair on women in Canada is a big no no! Ironically, even during winter, I couldn't live my best, hairy life in peace because my white … Continue reading One superficial advantage of my African Hubs
Gym jitters? You aren’t alone
Last week, I witnessed a young, overweight woman shyly walk into the gym as I worked out. It was obvious to even a blind man that she was absolutely terrified of being there. With slouched shoulders and her face to the ground, she slowly walked to the darkest corner of the gym, took a pair … Continue reading Gym jitters? You aren’t alone
You just met
"I was there the moment he cheated on me. I witnessed the very second he made the decision. Cheating bastard!"
Oh Poor Mr. Tortoise
"Where's the tortoise?", we asked him almost in a sing-song manner. "Oh, the tortoise", he grinned, showing large teeth.
Let’s normalize…
starting over in your 30s and 40s. It is okay to begin again and again and AGAIN. empathizing with the many women and men dealing with fertility issues. Learn to read the room and not hurt people with prying questions and unsolicited comments. denouncing and destroying the societal burden on women to make marriages work … Continue reading Let’s normalize…